"Cutoff culture", "the friendzone": these are just neologisms used by men to mask or soften the reality that they have been – and have the right to be – rejected by women. They’re attitudes stemming from the assumption that men are owed something by women. Guys in the friendzone should be expecting sex for their kindness; otherwise what’s the point of hanging out with girls? Men whose exes broke up with them and then cut them off deserve explanations as to why, as detailed as they want, for as long as they want them – regardless of the fact that their frightening post-breakup behavior should be explanation enough. And when they’re not busy making up new words to describe their interactions with women, men with these hangups are giving existing words new meaning: "stalking" becomes "tenacity"; "pathetic public wailing" becomes a "romantic gesture"; the intense desire to not be rejected is actually the intense feeling of love.